Boundaries are the lines we draw during interactions with others that express what we’re okay with and what we reject. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they’re also comfortable opening themselves to intimacy and close relationships.
Our Tips for Healthy Boundaries worksheet lists quick suggestions for maintaining or working toward healthy boundaries. Some topics include:
| Communicating limits and expectations | Not agreeing to things just to please others | Adjusting boundaries based on the situation |
| Risking discomfort if it serves a higher need | Using values to guide boundary decisions | Paying attention to strong emotions |
Use this resource with clients who want to develop healthier boundaries. This includes clients who struggle to say “no” to others, prioritize their needs, or relax their boundaries when it would serve their growth.
To encourage reflection, consider asking clients these questions:
- In what ways do you struggle to hold healthy boundaries?
- What can you do to improve in these areas?
- When is it worth being flexible with your boundaries?
If helpful, role-play with clients how they can respond to others when they want to set a boundary. If clients struggle with overly rigid boundaries, explore how they can relax them when there’s a clear benefit to doing so.
